Health experts and commentators are voicing growing concern over a disturbing trend involving men collapsing and dying during sexual encounters—often with women who are not their spouses and typically in hotel settings.

Recent incidents have highlighted the severity of this issue, including the death of Dr. Olabode Abimbola Ibikunle, a lecturer at Kogi State University, and Mr. Louis Nwachukwu, a staff member of the Transmission Company of Nigeria (TCN), who was found dead in a hotel room in Abuja after checking in with a woman identified as Helen Raymond.

According to Clinical Psychologist and Mental Health Therapist Mcfredericks Akor Edache, many men resort to using sexual enhancement drugs in an attempt to impress their partners—particularly in extramarital affairs. However, he warned that these substances can have fatal consequences.

Edache explained that the natural sexual response cycle begins with foreplay, which stimulates the body and prepares both partners for intimacy. However, the use of enhancers artificially alters this process by increasing blood flow to the genitals, potentially diverting it from other vital organs. In extreme cases, this can impair respiration and lead to death.

He emphasized that men should not feel pressured to take such drugs just to avoid being labeled as "one-minute men" or to match a partner's climax timing. He warned that the second or third rounds of sex are often forced or exaggerated, driven more by ego than genuine desire or pleasure.

“Men must understand that sexual intimacy should be mutual and natural. Attempting to match female climax timing with enhancement drugs can disrupt the body's balance, reduce oxygen supply to vital organs, and trigger fatal health episodes,” he noted.

Supporting this view, Kwara-based lecturer Hassan Alowonle stressed that sex, though natural, has become dangerous for some due to lifestyle choices and unrealistic expectations. He observed that some men approach sexual activity as an extreme sport, driven by fantasy and societal pressure, without understanding their health limitations.

Alowonle urged couples to undergo medical fitness checks before engaging in sexual relationships. He likened sex to physical exercise, warning that individuals with underlying heart conditions could suffer fatal outcomes during heightened arousal or exertion. The body's increased heart rate and blood pressure during sex are critical factors that should not be ignored.

He added that excessive sexual fantasies and the pressure to satisfy a partner—especially when finally meeting a long-anticipated lover—can lead to uncontrolled exertion, increasing the risk of sudden death.

Another concerning factor, according to Alowonle, is the influence of marketing and media that promote sexual performance enhancers, leading some women to demand unrealistic satisfaction and pushing men to take harmful substances in response.

Public affairs commentator and chemist Divine Mike Akor also addressed the trend, expressing dismay at the frequency of these incidents. He attributed many of the deaths to infidelity and the use of enhancement drugs, pointing out that the victims often engage with strangers whose health status, history, or intentions are unknown.

Akor argued that the desire to impress side partners, rather than maintain intimacy within marriage, is a major contributor. He questioned the risks men take when they use powerful substances to impress women far younger and more sexually active than themselves.

“Most of these deaths occur not with spouses, but with strangers—sometimes total unknowns. This introduces multiple risks, including exposure to unknown health conditions or even spiritual manipulation,” he warned.

Akor called for a cultural and moral reawakening, urging men to embrace contentment within marriage and reject the urge to seek validation through risky sexual behavior. He also advocated for restraint in the use of performance-enhancing substances, stressing their potential to disrupt the body’s natural functions and lead to irreversible consequences.